Four Reasons Why American Men Are So Feminine, Part 1

Compared to men around the world, today’s American man is very feminine. Before you start shooting bullets in my direction–let me explain. To be clear, here’s what I’m not saying: I am not claiming that most American men are effeminate. However, my claim is that the majority of American men exude feminine energy.

Let’s begin by first defining what I mean by feminine energy. To be feminine is any characteristic that is of or relating to females. The most distinct marks of a female are her womb and vagina, of a male, his scrotum and penis. Since the most distinctive marks of a man and woman are related to their sexual organs, the terms feminine energy and masculine energy are defined through male and female roles during sexual intercourse.

Women have to open themselves and actively receive during sex, whereas a man must rise to the occasion, enter a woman, and give her his seed. If he is impotent, the act cannot occur. Therefore, the male ultimately controls the act of intercourse. As a result, to exude feminine energy is to be open, vulnerable, and actively receptive. Conversely, masculine energy is characterized by assertive action, giving, and control.

In this post, I’ll discuss four reasons why American men exude feminine energy in romantic relationships. Please do not confuse this with male effeminate behavior, this post is about energies. I have spent 13 years traveling the world and observing (and experiencing) the way men and women romantically interact in different countries. When I returned to the States, boy was I in for a culture shock!

1. Fear of Rejection

The number one reason why American men use their feminine energy so often, stems from the wounds of past rejections. Let’s look at this case study of a friend I’ll call Ron.

In his early twenties, Ron was infatuated with a beautiful young woman. He took tips from American media and romanced her better than a Reese Witherspoon romcom co-star. They went out on expensive dates to upscale Manhattan restaurants and also creative dates like ice-skating at the Rockefeller Christmas rink. I mean, he put in the work! In the end, she still turned him down. She said she simply didn’t feel a ‘connection’ with him. He picked up the pieces of his heart and tried again, this time scaling down on the expenses but taking his new love interest out to “mid-level” Manhattan restaurants. Eventually, she ghosted him for no apparent reason.

That was all his heart could take. From that moment on, he determined that women were bitches and deserved to be treated as such. I mean, why wine and dine ‘em if they’re not gonna reciprocate the love? Soon ‘dating’ became a late night “wyd” text. Sending TikToc vids, acronym texts, and pictures of his genitals, would be the only form of ‘communication’ before he’d send the inevitable, “you up?” text. Some girls were willing to play the game and the price tag was way less than being a gentleman, so he chose to jump on the sigma male train.

In short, Ron began to utilize his feminine energy consistently when ‘dating’, because of the rejection he faced in his younger years. It became easier to sit at home, and bait and catch and receive many willing women into his bed.

In this position, a man is not exerting any masculine energy. His actions are passive instead of assertive, he gives nothing of value to the woman, and does not take control of the relationship. Instead, he passively waits to “see how it goes”.

These types of passive men are not viewed as desirable men simply because they are displaying feminine energy. Watch a man help an old lady cross the street and women begin to swoon. Watch a woman help an old lady cross the street and men just think she’s nice, because (don’t get me wrong here) she is, but she isn’t exuding feminine energy. And it’s this energy that attracts us to the opposite sex the most.

1. Fear of Rejection

The number one reason why American men use their feminine energy so often, stems from the wounds of past rejections. Let’s look at this case study of a friend I’ll call Ron.

In his early twenties, Ron was infatuated with a beautiful young woman. He took tips from American media and romanced her better than a Reese Witherspoon romcom co-star. They went out on expensive dates to upscale Manhattan restaurants and also creative dates like ice-skating at the Rockefeller Christmas rink. I mean, he put in the work! In the end, she still turned him down. She said she simply didn’t feel a ‘connection’ with him. He picked up the pieces of his heart and tried again, this time scaling down on the expenses but taking his new love interest out to “mid-level” Manhattan restaurants. Eventually, she ghosted him for no apparent reason.

That was all his heart could take. From that moment on, he determined that women were bitches and deserved to be treated as such. I mean, why wine and dine ‘em if they’re not gonna reciprocate the love? Soon ‘dating’ became a late night “wyd” text. Sending TikToc vids, acronym texts, and pictures of his genitals, would be the only form of ‘communication’ before he’d send the inevitable, “you up?” text. Some girls were willing to play the game and the price tag was way less than being a gentleman, so he chose to jump on the sigma male train.

In short, Ron began to utilize his feminine energy consistently when ‘dating’, because of the rejection he faced in his younger years. It became easier to sit at home, and bait and catch and receive many willing women into his bed.

In this position, a man is not exerting any masculine energy. His actions are passive instead of assertive, he gives nothing of value to the woman, and does not take control of the relationship. Instead, he passively waits to “see how it goes”.

These types of passive men are not viewed as desirable men simply because they are displaying feminine energy. Watch a man help an old lady cross the street and women begin to swoon. Watch a woman help an old lady cross the street and men just think she’s nice, because (don’t get me wrong here) she is, but she isn’t exuding feminine energy. And it’s this energy that attracts us to the opposite sex the most.