This blog post is a continuation of my first post on this topic, so be sure to read 4 Reasons Why American Men Are So Feminine (Part 1).
In this post, I’ll continue to discuss the four reasons why American men exude feminine energy in romantic relationships. To reiterate from part 1: Please do not confuse this with male effeminate behavior, this post is about energies. I have spent 13 years traveling the world and observing (and experiencing) the way men and women romantically interact in different countries. When I returned to the States, boy was I in for a culture shock!
3. Selfishness: What can you do for me?
The third reason why American men are so feminine is just plain ol’ selfishness. Men step into the dating arena demanding, “What will you give me?”, rather than “Here’s what I can give you.” The first approach is selfish because it centers the relationship around himself. On the other hand, the second does the opposite. “But that’s not fair!”, some may begin to whine. However, masculine and feminine energies are not fair–they are simply opposite.
Well then, what’s the woman’s role in all this, you ask. She actively receives. Let’s go back to the intercourse example for visualization sake. If a woman is quiet, still, or passive during intercourse, this weakens the man’s confidence in his performance. However, if she is active in words, sounds, movement, or even how she is breathing, this encourages the performance of the man and ultimately brings pleasure to both parties. Therefore, a giving man is pleasing to both himself and his woman.
Subsequently, men should pay attention to a woman's receptiveness, is it active or passive? Does she receive it at all or does she say she can get it/do it herself? Is she thankful, appreciative, encouraging, or always unimpressed. In other words, does she encourage or discourage your performance? In the latter case, just walk away or try again if you think she’s worth the effort.
As females, although it isn't PC to admit it, we all love the princess treatment. When a gentleman opens the car door and every other door in your way, and pulls out your chair and even helps you remove your coat, you know he’s paying attentative to your needs. Or if you do the ‘polite lift’ of your purse at the end of dinner and he firmly tells you “It’s on me”. Or he gives you meaningful gifts. However, when men refuse to do these things in the name of ‘You do me first’, women assume masculine energy and play housewives. They come over at the ping of a ‘u up?’ text and give their man everything he asks for.
This can last for years because the man is in a feminine position of receiving and he enjoys it. Finally, the woman, tired of operating in her masculine energy, reassumes her feminine energy and asks for a ring. He gives it reluctantly knowing she will want him to assume his masculine energy. After the wedding, he tries to remain in his feminine energy and they divorce two years later because he has become accustomed to operating this way. And as I stated before, two of the same energies cannot be together.
Even in homosexual relationships, although the sexes are the same, the energies are still opposite. One man will assume masculine energy and the other feminine energy. The same is done in lesbian relationships, because opposite energies attract.
